Response

Although you find that wanting to have a lot of “hands-on” processes with the coachee hinders you from becoming a good coach, I think that is among the attributes of a good coach. It is a sign that you want the best out of them and evidence of genuine caring (Collins, 2002). Besides, Collins explains that effective coaches are aware of their strengths and weaknesses. That is, like you, an effective coach knows what they end up excessively attached or otherwise. I think it is an aspect of self-awareness, which every great coach has. Collins (2002) explains that a coach who is self-aware is able to devise clear mission statements and work towards their client’s goals regardless of possible differences in values and beliefs. That is why you can see potential in a client, and you desire to bring the best out of them.

I like Collin’s (2002) chapter what makes a good coach as it is an ideal frame of reference or a checklist for coaches. He has organized the chapter to show that coaching begins from the one’s true self, extends to character, and eventually action. That is, a coach has a preliminary innate compulsion to coach others. Then, through instructions, observation, self-awareness, and experience, coaches’ characters are developed to become effective and to become worthy leaders. That is, coaches, lead their clients into achieving their goals, by moving forward, as guided by the coaching mission.  In the end, such a coach has actionable strategies, by which they facilitate improvement and visible results.

Reference

Collins, G.R. 2002. Christian Coaching: Helping Others Turn Potential into Reality. (2nd ed.) Colorado Springs, CO: NavPress